Neutralize Your Beliefs and Emotions
We are a combination of our own limiting beliefs. Many times if you think something negative about yourself it has been inherited from something outside of you. Where do we learn to tell ourselves things like, “I’m not smart enough for ______” or “I’m not pretty enough to do/wear/be ______” or even “I don't deserve anything good in my life”. Early seeds of trauma or deception begin when we are little and follow us into our adult lives. The more we are told a negative idea, the more we embrace it subconsciously or consciously. These ideas stem from society, parents, friends, lovers, bosses, or anyone you've ever come in contact with who wants to give you a piece of their mind. That is all these beliefs are, a piece of a small mind.
We become negatively charged based on other’s fears and limitations, and this idea becomes our reality over and over again. It can even stem back to what another child said to you under their breath in grade school, but the point is, we carry and harbor all of these incidents and emotions that did not originate from us. How can we change the course of those thoughts to become the “I Am”.
“I Am” are two of the most powerful words, for what you put after them shapes your reality. Think of the world we would live in if we only spoke from our hearts, and didn’t take on the residue of those who don’t serve us. Let’s change the course, clear old ideas, and create no more limiting beliefs. Here is a simple exercise on how to release and recalibrate.
Step One: Identify
When you come across thoughts and beliefs that bother or hurt you, recognize this as a positive charge. You are being affected by these feelings, therefore you have created a charge around them. They bring up painful emotions, create limitations, and overall don't feel good. Positive does not mean good or bad here, it simply means you are affected. When these thoughts come up, or when you have identified them, this becomes a great moment to feel where it has stemmed from. If you do not want to relive or dive into those feelings, fear not, because you don’t have to! Just acknowledge them, so you can move forward with releasing them.
Step Two: Release
Ho’oponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. The mantra is a beautiful way to neutralize your feelings, emotions, and thoughts. Ho’oponopono is a practice in repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love for yourself. Have the negative belief at the forefront of your mind. An example is “No one wants me, I am not good enough”.
Repentance : Say “I am sorry”. This tells the self, hey I’m sorry for allowing this thought to have such impact on me. It shows you are responsible and seeking remorse with the self.
Forgiveness: Say “Please forgive me”. Don’t be too logical here, just ask for forgiveness. It feels good.
Gratitude: Say “Thank you”. Everything we are learning is a lesson. Be grateful to whoever or whatever it may be. Mean it, feel it, be grateful.
Love: Say “I love you”. Love yourself, your body, your mind, your ability to forgive yourself or whoever.
Recap: Identify your hurtful thoughts or experiences. Visualize them at the forefront of your mind. Address them. Say “I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you". This mantra when repeated at least three times, will neutralize your feeling toward the subject so you can be released of your limiting beliefs. Ho’oponopono can be used for things other than just thoughts that arise, so play around with it. It will never hurt to say this mantra.
Let’s put good things in the space we just neutralized and cleared! Pick three people with qualities or traits you admire. These people can be from the past, present, future, cartoon, mythical, whatever you want. For each person, choose three qualities that you love and admire. For example a person I chose for myself was Walt Disney. I admire his creativity, magical outlook, and connection with childhood. As you pick these qualities, you will realize you have known this trait before. It should feel good! Once you have written down a total of nine qualities, state them out loud to yourself in the form of “I Am ________!” This step is to recalibrate your brain.
If nothing else, and you've skipped to the bottom looking for a quick fix (while there never really is one) just remember one thing. Stating "I Am _________!" is powerful. You create your thoughts. Think good things about yourself. Think things you want to become, what you want to manifest, and who you ultimately want to be. The more you say it, the more you'll believe it, the more you'll become it.